Welcome to Ask Clare, our advice column. Have a question, dilemma, or quandary? Send it to Clare in an email or on her Facebook page.
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Clare,
I am a single 62-year-old man looking for a woman in the desert. I’m not extraordinarily wealthy or good looking, though I am fit for my age. How can I find a woman out here – and please don’t say The Nest!
– Retired romantic
Retired romantic,
Depending on how tech savvy you are, dating apps and websites may be a good option. Match.com and eHarmony are less age focued. OurTime and Sixty and Me are options that you may be less conscious of your age on. Locally, we’ve even got a good senior contingent on Tinder (think flings not rings). In person meets are probably more comfortable for you if that’s how you last dated. Keep an eye on those ring fingers when you’re out at coffee shops, lectures, hiking trails, etc.
Go get ‘em, tiger!
– Clare
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Clare,
I am due with my first child in June. I have already lost it with both my mom and my mother-in-law. They are so intrusive and want to tell me how I should be doing everything for birth. Months ago when I found out Desert Regional allows three in the delivery room, I agreed to let both be there. Any way to tell them they’re no longer welcome without being too harsh?
– Momma drama
Momma drama,
You can change your mind whenever you want. Your baby, your rules. Be gentle and say that you’re feeling overwhelmed and are hoping to keep it more intimate and simple. Good luck in there!
– Clare
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Clare,
I’m in a book club and I really enjoy it. I’ve been reading more and have met some really cool women. We switch off who hosts and it seems like the same person always calls off hosting. We all pick up the slack without too much of a problem but it just doesn’t seem fair. She’s perfectly nice and always reads the book but this still riles me up. Should I remind people who skipped their turn to make it up?
– Book worm
Book worm,
If you’re enjoying the club and hosts willingly offer, don’t bring it up. You’re unnecessarily causing conflict. Read your book, go to the hosts home and suck it up. You don’t have to cover for the flake though.
– Clare
