Welcome to Ask Clare, our advice column. Have a question, dilemma, or quandary? Send it to Clare in an email or on her Facebook page.
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Clare,
My family is very religious. I was raised Mormon but that’s not my life today. My parents have incessantly asked me about coming over for Easter with my nieces and nephews. Frankly, I’d much rather be sipping mimosas over brunch after an egg hunt with my little one. If we go to their place, there will be endless mentions of the significance of the holiday – and definitely no mimosas. Should I give up what I want for the sake of some family time for my daughter and her very cute cousins?
– Somebunny get me outta here
Somebunny get me outta here,
You can probably swing both. Do the fun egg hunt part at their place and then let them know you have other plans for the remainder of the day. Win-win. Your siblings will probably be jealous and may try to join you. Cheers!
– Clare
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Clare,
A friend and ex-coworker of mine is a narcissist in every sense of the word. I really think he worked in the solar industry so he could see more of his reflection. He was recently fired for a good reason but is telling everyone that he resigned and is talking trash on the company. We rely really heavily on referrals and our reputation. Would I be in the wrong to let my bosses know that this is happening so that they can try to take some action to protect themselves (and my livelihood)?
– Mirror mirror
Mirror mirror,
I think that’s fair game. If he’s more of a friend than a coworker, you could tell him to stop or you’ll have to go to you bosses. You friend should know better than to earn a bad reputation in our small valley.
– Clare
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Clare,
I overstepped my bounds and set up a blind date for a friend without telling her. I told her to meet me at the new restaurant in the Hotel Paseo, AC3, and when the hostess took her to the table, a great guy was waiting. Needless to say, she was mad and I realized it was wrong. I apologized and told her that my intentions were all good. She hasn’t spoken to me since but I just heard from a mutual friend that she’s now officially dating the guy I set her up with! Now, I’m kind of irked but I still want my friend back. Any advice?
-Love is blind
Love is blind,
What you did was pretty shitty and almost destined to go horribly wrong. Your friend has a right to be mad regardless of the fact that the two miraculously happened to hit it off under those awkward circumstances. Let her enjoy this new relationship and touch base with her in a month.
– Clare
